what is bullying?
Bullying is where a child or group of children take advantage of the power they have to hurt or reject someone else. Some of the ways children bully another child include calling them names, or saying or writing nasty comments, leaving them out of activities, threatening or not talking to them.When dealing with bullying it is very important that parents appreciate that often there is nothing their child can do.
Bullying can make children feel lonely, unhappy, frightened and unsafe and think that there must be something wrong with them.
Signs that might indicate your child is being bullied include tummy aches, nightmares, reluctance to go to school and loss of confidence.
They may lose contact with friends and seem isolated.
what can I do if my child is being bullied?
If your child is being bullied, listen to what they are saying and be supportive.
It is important to make it clear it isn’t their fault. Ask your child how they have been dealing with the bullying, talk about what else can be done and what action you can both take to solve the problem. Reassure them you will consult them before taking any action.
Remember that it is very hard for a victim to do something to stop the problem. They need your support.
Discuss the bullying with other parents, or support groups, who may be able to suggest ways they have helped their own children.
Raise the issue with your child’s school and ask the school what they will do to stop the bullying. Suggest that the school contact the bully’s parents, or appoint an adult minder for the bully.
Encourage the school to develop a “no bullying” policy if they don’t already have one and keep working with the school until the bullying stops.
You could help your child develop a plan to deal with bullying, including how to get help.
Children should first try ignoring the bullying child, telling them to stop and walking away whenever the bullying starts.
If the bullying is physical it is assault. Contact the school or Police immediately.
Encourage your child to always tell an adult they can trust.
text bullying
Text bullying is increasing. If someone is picking on your child via their mobile, call Netsafe on 0508 638 723 and they’ll assist. If the author of the text is unknown, the Police can request a trace from Telecom NZ or Vodafone. If the author is known, it may be a case of getting your number changed. Telecom NZ or Vodafone can be contacted directly for this. If you have any concerns don’t hesitate to contact the Police.
You can contact other parents, friends, teachers, strong classmates, senior students, school counsellor, principal or Board of Trustees,
The Office of the Commissioner for Children 0800 224-433
The Human Rights Commission 0800 496-877 www.hrc.co.nz
www.nobully.org.nz www.police.govt.nz www.HowToStopBullies.com
